LEARNING THEME · 02
Notice more. Assume less.
A repeated phrase or an unexpected pause can be worth noticing. It is a starting point for a question.
Start with what happened
“The subject changed twice” describes an observation. “They are hiding something” adds an interpretation. Keeping these separate gives you more room to ask a useful question.
Hold more than one explanation
A change of subject could reflect discomfort, distraction, misunderstanding or a different priority. You cannot establish the explanation from the change alone. A neutral question can help: “Would you like to return to the earlier point, or is something else more important?”
Look for context, not a universal code
Culture, relationships and circumstances matter. This material does not offer a body-language dictionary or claim that a single gesture reveals a motive.
Leave space to be corrected
Checking an interpretation can feel less dramatic than decoding a hidden signal. It gives the person you are speaking with a chance to tell you what you missed.
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